The Betraying Spouse

We all talk about the cheating spouse, and in most cases, we all blame the man, or it is usually the man that is caught cheating. Various reasons are given for this: he got bored, he was always a cheat, the woman stopped understanding him, younger girls threw themselves at him, and the list could go on forever. However, have we ever stopped to think…what do we, as women, do to drive a good man away?

In today’s issue, I shall be talking about the ‘Betraying Spouse’. Let me define this for you, seeing that I have just come up with this term. The ‘Betraying Spouse’ is the spouse that stops looking after themselves after they get married. I hate to point fingers but this usually the woman.

When he first meets her, she looks like Beyonce – hell, she makes Beyonce look bad! She’s the type of woman that always has her hair and nails done, wears clean clothes and smells fresh. She’s the kind of woman that you wouldn’t let out of your sight because other men would pose a threat. Unfortunately or fortunately, you pop the question and imagine that you shall remain with this beauty queen. Ya, she might gain a little weight but at the end of the day, she’ll remain that gorgeous, well kempt, fun loving woman.

Confident, good looking woman on a date

The messy, unkempt woman

Then one or two years down the road, it starts. She starts to dress down, hardly washes her hair or even her clothes, and the worst of them all, she brings out those dreadful granny panties. She generally looks bad. She claims, it’s because she does not have enough time between the kids, work and home but you don’t believe it. You probably have a sister or friend or in-law that has maintained the status quo – she probably looks better than she did before she got married. In other words, it’s no excuse.

I, personally, think that this is a form of betrayal. You duped this man into believing that you were this person and then turned out to be someone else. The good news is there is always hope! Revival and renewal can happen, and you can change – go back to the woman he fell in love with. Start making an effort – start with the small and simple stuff: your hair and nails. Then get bigger – buy a perfume, perfumed lotion and body spray. And of course, out with the old and in with the new: GET YOURSELF BETTER UNDERWEAR!

I guess we all slip into that state of mind and it’s normal; but once the problem has been established, snap out of it and get twerk it again!